Fall in love with yourself again!

This is my current journey and I would say its been an eye opener. I’m taking baby steps and hoping to get better at it; to make it a part of my life.

I realized how bad it was when I found myself sitting on a bathroom floor. I was falling short in my self relationship. I had this crumpling feeling and the only time it stopped was when I sat on that floor. I was comfortable with the cold floor and tiny room. The closeness of the walls, made it bearable.

The feeling was followed by resentment. I resented myself with vile I didn’t know I had! Thinking about it now, I wish I had laughed. Unfortunately, I was busy going through all the bad things that happened in the past and how people were not making me happy.

At the back of my mind, I knew how ridiculous that was! Nobody was responsible for my happiness but me.

If you’re searching for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.

I had to start over.

Identifying and acknowledging something was wrong was the first step.

Second, was my will to take charge and make the necessary changes; starting with my environment.

Sometimes being in a space that shows you how far you have come, what you have achieved, how bad-ass you are, helps you realize your worth. This is one of the things that helped me fall in love with myself.

Thirdly, I started doing things that I was good at and enjoyed. I enjoy working out and exercise always improve your mood. In addition, it gives me a chance to challenge myself when lifting which makes me feel even better after my workout.

Next is acknowledging your emotions. don’t sweep them under the rug as if they don’t exist. Unless you are busy at work, then you can write them down, including the trigger. Then compartmentalise it and keep working, revisit that later.

Distractions can be compelling at the time because you want an escape but don’t let them take you away. Focus on journaling how you feel two-three times a day. It will help with understanding your emotions and track progress.

Keep checking on yourself.

In the morning, say good morning to yourself, ridiculous I know…find out how you slept. How your night was. The same things you ask people you care about in the morning, ask yourself. You love yourself, don’t you? If you don’t, it’s one of the ways to start.

Always add value to yourself.

At the end of the day, review your day. What you achieved, learnt or failed at. Is there a way to improve? Be a better version of yourself tomorrow? Write that down as well. Say goodnight to yourself and sleep tight..and sweet dreams.

Meditate and/or try to understand yourself. This is lifelong. You will discover so much about yourself.

“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the world.” ~Marcus Aurelius